How Do I Raise a Kind Son?

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A New Dad Asks, If Male Violence Is the Biggest Threat to Women—How Do I Raise a Kind Son?

The idea of having a baby boy scared me: What kind of man will he grow up to be? Here’s what I learned about what it takes to raise compassionate men.

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by Christopher Zumski Finke

Louis CK sums it up best: "There is no greater threat to women than men. We are the number one threat to women. Globally and historically, we’re the number one cause of injury and mayhem to women." And I worry that he’s right.
Now that I am a father, this question constantly sits before me: How do I raise a son of compassion and dignity? A man who respects women?
 

How many times--I've tried to make men understand that it begins at home and drops into every generation thereafter unless some man in some generation sees what his family has promulgated for generations and stops it. There is no safe place in the world from this element of the male population for women and girls, and even boys. This screw up in men is so wide spread that it permeates every culture on the planet and it has grown over centuries because "other" men, esp those in power, have turned their backs on the victims--women and girls--out of cowardice, ignorance, laziness, or they are doing it themselves, until it is an epidemic. I'll never understand why. They will start a war on a whim that someone is stepping their territory sending all the young men to be killed and maimed but won't protect the most vulnerable. And, in fact, that creates another level of violence in men that is perpetrated through generations.
What a mess! What a hellhole they have created for women to endure!